January can be a pretty intense month for many different reasons.
Entering a new year after a festive break can feel like an uphill climb, and with January ushering in the beginning of new routines, resolutions, and goals, it can feel like a lot. Following the return to mundane normalcy, it can be difficult to pursue your goals and resolutions and to put yourself first.
Whether it’s exhaustion, being overwhelmed starting the process or feeling selfish for putting yourself first, beginning new routines and actively working towards your goals can be daunting. With our everyday responsibilities, endless to-do lists, and commitments taking up our time, beginning a new journey in which you put yourself first can be the last thing you want to do.
Coupled with the dreaded fear that we aren’t doing enough, it can all become a heavy burden to bear, preventing you from enjoying yourself and looking forward with excitement.
With all of the above dampening any joy or hope you can have for future goals, the plans you may have of putting yourself first can quickly go to the back burner.
Despite the importance of putting yourself first, for a lot of us, it is an incredibly difficult task. It can feel selfish, fruitless and scary.
Taking a magnifying glass to our current situation and determining how to make it better is a hard task, one that can feel overwhelming. Putting yourself first is frightening because it means we have to make better choices for ourselves and for what we want, and we have to identify our goals and actively work towards them.
Here at GirlDreamer, we understand the importance of putting yourself first. We understand how beneficial it truly is and how it can ensure that you see your goals through, accomplish your dreams and become your best self. Below are our top tricks on how to put yourself first and ensure that this year is your best, most productive and positive yet!
Be Selfish
The easiest way to put yourself first is to become selfish.
For most of us, our entire lives, we have been told that it is wrong to be selfish, to put yourself first and to choose yourself. However, when it comes to your goals and dreams, putting yourself first is essential, and to do that, you must be selfish. You must choose yourself, prioritise your wants and needs and continue to do so again and again in order to put yourself first.
Being selfish is difficult, and it can feel unpleasant.
However, there is truly nothing more freeing than being selfish and choosing yourself. Saying no and prioritising yourself, your wants, and your needs is incredibly important and a vital first step when it comes to putting yourself first.
Determine What You Want
Determining what it is that you want is essential in putting yourself first. To begin putting yourself first, beginning by identifying why you are taking this step is essential.
You need to figure out what it is that you want, what your goals are, what you want to achieve and how you are going to do this. Determining what you want ensures that you are motivated in the process and can follow through on the journey because you know what your goals are.
Set Boundaries
When putting yourself first, the burden of responsibility and endless to-do lists can make it feel like you are being pulled in ten different directions. As a result, you might choose not to put yourself first, instead putting your wants and needs on the back burner.
To ensure you put yourself first and continue on in the pursuit of your dreams and goals, we encourage you to implement boundaries early on in the process and continue to uphold them. Boundaries are powerful tools that ensure you work towards your goals, prioritise yourself and create the life you want.
Boundaries mean that you are firm in your routine and give only to what fuels and excites you.
Boundaries allow you to truly put yourself first and choose yourself again and again.
Putting yourself first is difficult, but it is essential in ensuring that you create the life you want.
Putting yourself first means that you show yourself compassion and kindness and continue to carve out time for yourself that is beneficial for your current and future self. To truly achieve your goals and become the person you have always dreamed about, putting yourself first is the first and most instrumental step you will ever take.
